I approached her today and said ';that was great, you sang really well';. I could talk to her next thursday too as we have Rock Workshop at the end of every thursday...when should i offer to buy her lunch uptown one breaktime? next couple of thursdays? i should take things slowly. both of us are basically introverts lol we are polite and friendly. lot of advice on here involves chatting up girls with all the touching and whatnot obvious signals. I'm just interested in her. I don't generally go out my way to get friends let alone a girlfriend.With shy girls, things must be taken slower, and no immediate intimacies...how do I deal with her?
i don't know exactly your situation but being a shy girl myself being approached and singled out can make me nervous/annoyed. it might take a little longer but you should try getting close to her friends maybe not even her close girl friends but just guys that hang out with them sometimes that way it'll feel more natural to her and not so much like an attack. The signal thing is super hard and they'll probably mean for you to go away/'brushing you off' at first because she feels uncomfortable in social situations but stubborness aside keep trying for a while to see if you can break through her barriers if not there's plenty of other girls out there yadayada and all that junk... good luck
Monday, December 12, 2011
Help on how to speak to girls?
This is a embarassing question I am 15 turning 16 and have a muscalar body and girls keep looking and saying hi to me but i dont know how to communicate with them i just say hi and keep going so they think im not intrested or in another scenario im at park or beach whatever and i will be attracted to a girl and ill stand there like a idiot unable to say hi or if i do unable to start a conversation so i will just walk away giving the weird kid impression on another note when im introduced to a girl by a friend and im able to talk very well then very quickly be able to speak with them alone and give them a good impression girls say im kind,sensitive and actually listen and i want to display these traits but it is hard to when your this shy. im very good with computers meeting and chatting with girls but it's not the same. i find im shy with ethier male or female friends and would like to get over it. It is probally why i have a very limited amount of friends please helpHelp on how to speak to girls?
I had the same problem and I swear this works. You just act like a total crazy person and not care about what she thinks. Like seriously go above and beyond what you think would be a normal interaction. This works because since you are shy you are below the line of normal interaction. So, when you get out there like that..... it makes you seem normal.Help on how to speak to girls?
ok! if girls talked to u ,u should talk with them too like:
G:hi
B:hi,how r u?
G:fine nd u?
B:cool,me too
B:so whts ur name?
G:(any name)
B:wow nice name
and keep tlking tell they say (ok,bye seya tomorrow)
and about friends , now no guy is good
so ,bad boy need a bad boy
and good boy need a good boy
so try to make relationship with some one just like u
and best wishes guy! ;)
open your mouth
make noise come out
speak the same language as them
perhaps a letter to them
and put it in a bottle
throw it in the ocean
and then when someone finds it
in about 30 years
you'll know how to talk to girls.
If you think a girl's cute just ask her what she likes and what grade she's in, and maybe if she is urghhh, then just ignore her and walk away.
I think just start a conversation going. Just say hi and then say how are you and what do you like to do and soon enough, the conversation will roll faster than a train. :)
Haha puff
lol i love what banana said. she got my vote for best answer if a vote takes place.
There's no easy solution when it comes to overcoming shyness. The only way you can really manage it is to just throw yourself out there. Put caution to the wind and just start talking. A lot of times, I used to find myself being very shy and would sort of alienate myself from others. The way I got over it was to just open up to people. Be honest and just try to take small steps. Talking to a partner in class or something, just making small talk, can help a lot. If you can make them laugh or get them interested, ask for their AIM screenname or myspace. If they give you one, start talking to them more. Small talk can go a long way, and you often find yourself talking a lot more. Once you feel comfortable with them, ask for a phone number, or to hang out. It might be a little awkward at first, but just remember: they're interested. They're taking a risk. Make it worth their while!
Just go where you have the most fun. Try not to be shy, people are far less impressive than you think they are. So don't take yourself too seriously and be afraid to talk to people. You only have a limited time to live. You gonna waste it on being shy?
I was really shy once myself, at around your age too. Never could talk to girls. Then I realized that they want friends as much as you do, so there's nothing to be afraid about.
And if you try to be out going an embarrass yourself, so what? We've all been there. It's nothing new. The people who laugh have been in the same situations.
They all just plain old people. Nothing to be shy about around them.
Just go where you have the most fun.
Okay, I think I can help. I am shy too, but am forced to be social because I deal with a lot of different people in my job with many different personalities, ages, etc. Anyway, I have to maintain a confident exterior regardless of what is going on on the inside. Anyway, I've been doing this for years and it helps soooo much. Have ten or so 'stock' conversation starters. They just need to be simple, like ';Hey, what's up?'; or ';You're really GOOD at that!'; The main thing to remember is to try to only talk about things that involve them. Don't talk about yourself unless asked and when answering, don't be secretive, but keep your answers simple. People really only want to talk about themselves. Once you get the ball rolling, it just gets easier. Force yourself to start conversations. It's easier on the person who actually starts off first. You'll start to realize it's not as scary as you thought. The stock conversation starters have always helped me.
I had the same problem and I swear this works. You just act like a total crazy person and not care about what she thinks. Like seriously go above and beyond what you think would be a normal interaction. This works because since you are shy you are below the line of normal interaction. So, when you get out there like that..... it makes you seem normal.Help on how to speak to girls?
ok! if girls talked to u ,u should talk with them too like:
G:hi
B:hi,how r u?
G:fine nd u?
B:cool,me too
B:so whts ur name?
G:(any name)
B:wow nice name
and keep tlking tell they say (ok,bye seya tomorrow)
and about friends , now no guy is good
so ,bad boy need a bad boy
and good boy need a good boy
so try to make relationship with some one just like u
and best wishes guy! ;)
open your mouth
make noise come out
speak the same language as them
perhaps a letter to them
and put it in a bottle
throw it in the ocean
and then when someone finds it
in about 30 years
you'll know how to talk to girls.
If you think a girl's cute just ask her what she likes and what grade she's in, and maybe if she is urghhh, then just ignore her and walk away.
I think just start a conversation going. Just say hi and then say how are you and what do you like to do and soon enough, the conversation will roll faster than a train. :)
Haha puff
lol i love what banana said. she got my vote for best answer if a vote takes place.
There's no easy solution when it comes to overcoming shyness. The only way you can really manage it is to just throw yourself out there. Put caution to the wind and just start talking. A lot of times, I used to find myself being very shy and would sort of alienate myself from others. The way I got over it was to just open up to people. Be honest and just try to take small steps. Talking to a partner in class or something, just making small talk, can help a lot. If you can make them laugh or get them interested, ask for their AIM screenname or myspace. If they give you one, start talking to them more. Small talk can go a long way, and you often find yourself talking a lot more. Once you feel comfortable with them, ask for a phone number, or to hang out. It might be a little awkward at first, but just remember: they're interested. They're taking a risk. Make it worth their while!
Just go where you have the most fun. Try not to be shy, people are far less impressive than you think they are. So don't take yourself too seriously and be afraid to talk to people. You only have a limited time to live. You gonna waste it on being shy?
I was really shy once myself, at around your age too. Never could talk to girls. Then I realized that they want friends as much as you do, so there's nothing to be afraid about.
And if you try to be out going an embarrass yourself, so what? We've all been there. It's nothing new. The people who laugh have been in the same situations.
They all just plain old people. Nothing to be shy about around them.
Just go where you have the most fun.
Okay, I think I can help. I am shy too, but am forced to be social because I deal with a lot of different people in my job with many different personalities, ages, etc. Anyway, I have to maintain a confident exterior regardless of what is going on on the inside. Anyway, I've been doing this for years and it helps soooo much. Have ten or so 'stock' conversation starters. They just need to be simple, like ';Hey, what's up?'; or ';You're really GOOD at that!'; The main thing to remember is to try to only talk about things that involve them. Don't talk about yourself unless asked and when answering, don't be secretive, but keep your answers simple. People really only want to talk about themselves. Once you get the ball rolling, it just gets easier. Force yourself to start conversations. It's easier on the person who actually starts off first. You'll start to realize it's not as scary as you thought. The stock conversation starters have always helped me.
How to be better at talking to girls?
OK, guys-- I really need help! I suck at talking to girls... In fact, I just suck at talking to people in general. I have a very small circle of friends and even though I am friendly to everyone I talk to, I just don't seem to have the kind of charm that draws in girls, or friends in general! I'm just a really shy guy. Anyway, today I blew it! What happened, you ask? Well, it was my first day of university today and I was lost, but of course, I wasn't the only one who was lost on campus-- today, I met the prettiest and sweetest girl I've ever seen in my life and we were both lost, both looking for the same building, so she approached me to ask if I knew where we were going. Well, I responded accordingly, and then we were walking in silence trying to figure out where to go. Because she was really friendly, she was really making an effort to try and have a conversation, but stupid me had nothing to say to her at all! I was quite tongue tied and eventually, we parted ways without even a goodbye! Now I feel really rotten because of my inept social skills. I mean, how lucky for me to actually be approached by a pretty girl who actually wants to have a conversation... AND I BLEW IT!! Don't get me wrong-- I'm not saying I wanted to make her my girlfriend or anything like that (FIRST DAY??!), I just wish I was a better conversationalist! If I was, I might have made a new friend today, but I really suck and I feel bad. I've never had a girlfriend before, and to be honest, I only have one or two female friends who I sometimes talk to, but other than that, I don't really know how to talk to girls at all. I have only brothers, and almost entirely male friends. I've decided that university is the start of adult life and I want NOW to be the time when I turn things around, otherwise I may never have a girlfriend until I'm old and wealthy (and she'll only want me for my money XD!!) But anyway, please help-- how can I be better at chatting up girls? Bear in mind, I'm really shy and quite withdrawn, but I'd like to change that. Please help with any tips/advice? Thanks. ;)How to be better at talking to girls?
Man, I'm getting really tired- literally, I'm yawning right now, I think I'm on the internets too much.
First, may I *cringe* for a second? Man, that sucks. That girl sounded really, really cute and friendly, and at the very least, you could've had a hot acquaintance to see around campus.
But what I tell other guys in your situation I'll tell you. You'll never be good with girls if you don't practice being confident and charming around them. You need to stop being afraid of rejection and just start talking to all different types of girls. Make drastic changes to your lifestyle and how you view yourself- the steps you take are ultimately up to you. But either way, if you want to talk to more girls and be attractive to women, you need to start talking to them.You can be confident and attractive- you just need to believe in yourself and work hard (Wow, I sound like a Disney movie).
Trust me, if you don't overcome this fear now, it'll be much harder to do so later in life.
Ok, sleep time for me, but please, even if you don't want to give me best answer or anything, send me an email or add me as a contact or something, and I'll for sure get back to you- I'll give you more detailed tips and advice.How to be better at talking to girls?
i no you asked for guys but this is my take i love shy guys and if you want to make conversation just talk about something random like the weather although that is kid of cliche at least shell know that your trying and that means a lot no matter what though dont make it awkward that always leads to a quick goodbye.
Relax, you have a whole semester wtih her so chances are you will see her again. Approach her like one of the guys, ask her how she's doing, what shes majoring etc etc. Don't drag out the conversations too long at first. Girls like a clean guy, fresh hair cut, clean shaved, healthy skin. Hit up the gym and get fit not only will it boost your energy level but it attracts women. Go out and have fun, you'll just have to go out and approach people and talk to them knowing that they may ignore youu, and if they don't than you succeeded on fighting your fear. good luck
Just relax and imagine you're talking to a guy-- remember, girls are humans too and you talk to them in the same way you talk to anyone else. There really aren't any ';special rules'; or anything. Just be yourself, and forget about the person'r femininity and just think of it as talking to anyone else who you talk to. Other than that, being fit and smart will not only boost your chances, but it will boost your confidence as well because you'll feel good about yourself. If you can learn to appreciate yourself, then other people, girls included, will start to like and appreciate you too. good luck.
The easiest way to improve your conversational skills is to ask a lot of open ended questions. It forces the other person to do most of the talking and makes you seem smarter and more interested
hmmm... it's tough to overcome shyness and social awkwardness, but it is definitely possible. i think the best way is just to throw yourself into social situations. join a club, a debate team, attend concerts, events, whatever. find a good friend that will do these things with you. your friend will ease the social situations, make you more comfortable, and actually help you open conversations with people and make new friends. the more practice you have, the more comfortable you will become talking to new people. you will probably still be pretty shy, but i think what matters is that you are able to build a level of comfort in social situations in which you can be yourself. i'm a pretty shy person as well, but i've grown pretty confident from the sociable atmosphere that i've pushed myself into many a times.
oh yes, and girls like guys who are confident. if you aren't confident tallking to people in general, i think you need to improve on that before you starting focusing on talking to girls. once confidence is built, talking to girls will just come naturally.
Man, I'm getting really tired- literally, I'm yawning right now, I think I'm on the internets too much.
First, may I *cringe* for a second? Man, that sucks. That girl sounded really, really cute and friendly, and at the very least, you could've had a hot acquaintance to see around campus.
But what I tell other guys in your situation I'll tell you. You'll never be good with girls if you don't practice being confident and charming around them. You need to stop being afraid of rejection and just start talking to all different types of girls. Make drastic changes to your lifestyle and how you view yourself- the steps you take are ultimately up to you. But either way, if you want to talk to more girls and be attractive to women, you need to start talking to them.You can be confident and attractive- you just need to believe in yourself and work hard (Wow, I sound like a Disney movie).
Trust me, if you don't overcome this fear now, it'll be much harder to do so later in life.
Ok, sleep time for me, but please, even if you don't want to give me best answer or anything, send me an email or add me as a contact or something, and I'll for sure get back to you- I'll give you more detailed tips and advice.How to be better at talking to girls?
i no you asked for guys but this is my take i love shy guys and if you want to make conversation just talk about something random like the weather although that is kid of cliche at least shell know that your trying and that means a lot no matter what though dont make it awkward that always leads to a quick goodbye.
Relax, you have a whole semester wtih her so chances are you will see her again. Approach her like one of the guys, ask her how she's doing, what shes majoring etc etc. Don't drag out the conversations too long at first. Girls like a clean guy, fresh hair cut, clean shaved, healthy skin. Hit up the gym and get fit not only will it boost your energy level but it attracts women. Go out and have fun, you'll just have to go out and approach people and talk to them knowing that they may ignore youu, and if they don't than you succeeded on fighting your fear. good luck
Just relax and imagine you're talking to a guy-- remember, girls are humans too and you talk to them in the same way you talk to anyone else. There really aren't any ';special rules'; or anything. Just be yourself, and forget about the person'r femininity and just think of it as talking to anyone else who you talk to. Other than that, being fit and smart will not only boost your chances, but it will boost your confidence as well because you'll feel good about yourself. If you can learn to appreciate yourself, then other people, girls included, will start to like and appreciate you too. good luck.
The easiest way to improve your conversational skills is to ask a lot of open ended questions. It forces the other person to do most of the talking and makes you seem smarter and more interested
hmmm... it's tough to overcome shyness and social awkwardness, but it is definitely possible. i think the best way is just to throw yourself into social situations. join a club, a debate team, attend concerts, events, whatever. find a good friend that will do these things with you. your friend will ease the social situations, make you more comfortable, and actually help you open conversations with people and make new friends. the more practice you have, the more comfortable you will become talking to new people. you will probably still be pretty shy, but i think what matters is that you are able to build a level of comfort in social situations in which you can be yourself. i'm a pretty shy person as well, but i've grown pretty confident from the sociable atmosphere that i've pushed myself into many a times.
oh yes, and girls like guys who are confident. if you aren't confident tallking to people in general, i think you need to improve on that before you starting focusing on talking to girls. once confidence is built, talking to girls will just come naturally.
How to be better and talking to girls?
I've recently started university and there are a lot of really interesting and pretty girls everywhere, but I'm no good at chatting up girls. I barely have any female friends at all; maybe girls just don't find me interesting, so obviously from what I've just mentioned, you would be correct to assume I have never had a girlfriend. But i want to change that now that I'm in university-- I don't mean I'm looking for a girlfriend specifically-- I just mean I would like to also have female friends and to be better at talking to girls. I just find it hard; maybe I'm too self conscious or it's psychological or something! Like today, I sat opposite this REALLY pretty girl on the bus home and I couldn't say a word to her... in fact, I couldn't even raise my head to look in her direction so I spent the whole journey looking at my feet! I know what you're probably thinking: this guy is pathetic. You're probably right to say that, but I want to change it. So please, any tips on how to be better at conversing with girls? I would really appreciate feedback from actual girls on this matter, but guys are more than welcome to share some tips as well, please. Thanks. ;-)How to be better and talking to girls?
Dude, I totally know how you feel. I was exactly the same way, and still can be at times. It was really hard at first, but it got easier as time went on. Relaxing is the best thing to do first. The way I got through it was to talk to women online, as I found it hard to talk to them in person. As I got to know some women online, I found it a bit easier to talk to the face to face.
I never had a girlfriend till a about 5 years ago, and now I've been married for almost 3 years. It'll take some time to get to where you feel comfortable talking with girls, but you'd be surprised how well you will do once you get past the nervousness you feel at the beginning. If your university has a community chat page, or if friends you know have female friends that they could get you talking to online, it might get you to where you begin to feel easier about talking to them in person. Good luck!How to be better and talking to girls?
Be yourself and ask their opinions on things.
Inside tip: Our game is 'hard to get'. Please don't use it against us too much.
Well, speaking from a girl's point of view, all boys are stupid. I'd like to say that you don't have a chance. But the truth is girls are pretty stupid too. Whereas boys only seem to talk or pay any attention to the pretty ones, girls are flattered with every type of boy that's out there.
So you just look at a girl and smile, and most probably she will want to be friends with you forever. Seriously, even if you talk to her while going bright red, she will find that just so flattering and will probably be stupid and creepy enough to immediately fall in love with you.
Be warned.
Have confidence!
Don't be selective of the girls you choose to talk to. Don't aim to talk to only pretty girls, but talk to ALL girls and build up your confidence as you gain experience and mature in this area.
From my personal experience, I would first be friends with girls when learning how to converse with girls because you'll realize females aren't as different from males as you think and even a pretty girl is fine to converse as long as you aren't being creepy. A common trait is for guys to go overboard in being friendly to a girl to the point where the girl is put off especially if, and usually only if, the guy isn't ';cute'; enough for her standards. On the other side is being too overcome my lack of experience in the realm of females to even engage at all. I would open conversation in an appropriate setting and with humor or a cool/interesting point to grab her attention and want to be friends even if not romantically. I'm not putting a source because for this question it is largely irrelevant as we are talking about people, not information.
I guess u can chat with me or email me for practice hahahaha i'm just kidding but yeah to start a good visual communication u have to start it with a good verbal and written communication. ask ur sister or ur girl friend to train u. well, i'm as a girl sometimes like a shy guy like u but we just can smile from the distance cuz u know we want u guys to step forward to us....good luck!!!!
Be yourself and look at her as if she isn't going to bite your head off. Women are just like men, we talk and get interested in different things, like to be accepted.. Blah blah blah
Point is to just relax and be yourself. Don't be so scared, go up to her and ask her what she is studying or what she thinks of the school. Smile, relax and think of her as someone you've known your whole life but haven't seen in a long while.
Hi!
I think its really good that you want to be more confident.
The best thing is to start with a little smile. The more smiles you give and get back the more confident you will get.
If you see people on a regular basis a Hello, Good morning or some simple comment like ';nice shoes, its hot today'; anything like that can start a conversation!
Remember girls are human too and some will feel exactly the same way about boys as you feel about girls!
So you're not alone.
If you want to we can connect our profiles then you can see that girls really have the same thoughts and ideas as boys.
What about joining clubs where you will have to interact with girls its a safe environment and you can discuss the activity you're doing so you already have a common ground.myspace co php web hosting
Dude, I totally know how you feel. I was exactly the same way, and still can be at times. It was really hard at first, but it got easier as time went on. Relaxing is the best thing to do first. The way I got through it was to talk to women online, as I found it hard to talk to them in person. As I got to know some women online, I found it a bit easier to talk to the face to face.
I never had a girlfriend till a about 5 years ago, and now I've been married for almost 3 years. It'll take some time to get to where you feel comfortable talking with girls, but you'd be surprised how well you will do once you get past the nervousness you feel at the beginning. If your university has a community chat page, or if friends you know have female friends that they could get you talking to online, it might get you to where you begin to feel easier about talking to them in person. Good luck!How to be better and talking to girls?
Be yourself and ask their opinions on things.
Inside tip: Our game is 'hard to get'. Please don't use it against us too much.
Well, speaking from a girl's point of view, all boys are stupid. I'd like to say that you don't have a chance. But the truth is girls are pretty stupid too. Whereas boys only seem to talk or pay any attention to the pretty ones, girls are flattered with every type of boy that's out there.
So you just look at a girl and smile, and most probably she will want to be friends with you forever. Seriously, even if you talk to her while going bright red, she will find that just so flattering and will probably be stupid and creepy enough to immediately fall in love with you.
Be warned.
Have confidence!
Don't be selective of the girls you choose to talk to. Don't aim to talk to only pretty girls, but talk to ALL girls and build up your confidence as you gain experience and mature in this area.
From my personal experience, I would first be friends with girls when learning how to converse with girls because you'll realize females aren't as different from males as you think and even a pretty girl is fine to converse as long as you aren't being creepy. A common trait is for guys to go overboard in being friendly to a girl to the point where the girl is put off especially if, and usually only if, the guy isn't ';cute'; enough for her standards. On the other side is being too overcome my lack of experience in the realm of females to even engage at all. I would open conversation in an appropriate setting and with humor or a cool/interesting point to grab her attention and want to be friends even if not romantically. I'm not putting a source because for this question it is largely irrelevant as we are talking about people, not information.
I guess u can chat with me or email me for practice hahahaha i'm just kidding but yeah to start a good visual communication u have to start it with a good verbal and written communication. ask ur sister or ur girl friend to train u. well, i'm as a girl sometimes like a shy guy like u but we just can smile from the distance cuz u know we want u guys to step forward to us....good luck!!!!
Be yourself and look at her as if she isn't going to bite your head off. Women are just like men, we talk and get interested in different things, like to be accepted.. Blah blah blah
Point is to just relax and be yourself. Don't be so scared, go up to her and ask her what she is studying or what she thinks of the school. Smile, relax and think of her as someone you've known your whole life but haven't seen in a long while.
Hi!
I think its really good that you want to be more confident.
The best thing is to start with a little smile. The more smiles you give and get back the more confident you will get.
If you see people on a regular basis a Hello, Good morning or some simple comment like ';nice shoes, its hot today'; anything like that can start a conversation!
Remember girls are human too and some will feel exactly the same way about boys as you feel about girls!
So you're not alone.
If you want to we can connect our profiles then you can see that girls really have the same thoughts and ideas as boys.
What about joining clubs where you will have to interact with girls its a safe environment and you can discuss the activity you're doing so you already have a common ground.
How to chat with someone when most IM systems are blocked?
I need to chat with my girl but where she's msn, gtalk, yahoo and all other IM systems are blocked. Can you recommend a way to chat or at least something better than just sending emailsHow to chat with someone when most IM systems are blocked?
try meebo.com(a popular choice) or iloveim.com. if there is a proxy server that blocks the im sys then try circumventors(peace.org)or anonymisers (JAP, tinyurl.com. anon.com).How to chat with someone when most IM systems are blocked?
Try www.meebo.com
It's all of the IM systems in a web based form.
Try web IM's
like www.meebo.com
if u r in the same network.. then use IPMSG.. this does not need internet connection when used in the same LAN
try meebo.com(a popular choice) or iloveim.com. if there is a proxy server that blocks the im sys then try circumventors(peace.org)or anonymisers (JAP, tinyurl.com. anon.com).How to chat with someone when most IM systems are blocked?
Try www.meebo.com
It's all of the IM systems in a web based form.
Try web IM's
like www.meebo.com
if u r in the same network.. then use IPMSG.. this does not need internet connection when used in the same LAN
A girls advice please.....?
Hiya, I need some advice on a situation!,
I am in a relationship of 4 and a half years and really love the person im with, we very rarley argue, we like the same things, we go out and have fun together, ect ect ect, obviously we have been through alot together as that is along time..girls imaine thats you!!
i have been very understanding of bloke things, i dont mind if he has porno's, he (on occasions like birthdays) mite go to a strip club which im not too bothered about, but ive recently found he has been chatting to girls on the internet, i know this as i signed up as someone else and have been talking to him for a about a week!, how many of you would draw the line there, i dont know whats the best thing to do?, i love him and want to be with him, but i cant help but think if hes doing that what else is he doing, also i dont know what hes saying to other girls, what would you do, would there be any particular questions you would ask him as this ';secret girl';....im realy stuck :-(A girls advice please.....?
As this ';secret girl';, ask him if he has someone special. I wouldn't be bothered if he's got this other side of him. But I'd draw the line when he starts meeting other girls from the internet you know. Go talk to him. If he's serious about you and your relationship, he'll lay off the ';other stuff';. It may be healthy for him but it sure is not relationship wise. Just talk to him about it. Goodluck.A girls advice please.....?
Approach him, and talk to him about the situation.
continue to chat with him and eventually try to meet with him... if he does meet with you, as his email buddy, then you know exactly where you stand and should break up with him.. sorry, but that's the facts.
before you draw the line ask him flirtatious questions as this secret girl and see how he acts...if he seems to be getting to friendly you need to talk to him...he may just be doing it to see pics of other girls and you're already giving him permission to do so...good luck
See how personal he is willing to get with you on the net. Then run as fast as you can and dont look back. He's a user and a loser.
Maybe if conversations save you could check up on them? you dont wanna be to sneaky.. it could lead to arguments about not trusting eachother... if its bothering you that he is talking to girls on the net.. then you shoudnt tlk to guys... i dont know... maybe try the convo saving thing.. if it dont work.. talk to him
I think one question you should ask is ';Do you have a girlfriend?'; And you know exactly what to do if he says ';No'; right? But on the other hand.. checking up on him like that will make him feel that you don't trust him. The only thing you can do I guess is to confront him straight out. If he argues, defends himself, and gets mad at you, then he's not worth it because if he loves you and knows that you love him, then it is only natural for you to want to know the truth.
What the??????? Man you lost me at the ect ect ect.........I thought it was etc etc etc......me no speaka your run on, no makea sentence's................
boys are boys, no matter how good he is, once in his life he will turn left. but in doing so don't really mean he don't love you anymore. if there is someone who knows him, its you. just cross your fingers and hope for the best. just be honest about the situation and accept his opinions.
talk to him as secret girl and see how far he is willing to go. you never know you may be supprised?? he might just be talking to these girls and nothing else. if he is willing to go further confront him
OK, my boyfriend does this all the time, the same stuff you described. The pornos, the strip clubs, the chatting with other girls,. I have been with him for over 10 years. When I first found out that he was chatting with other women, it didn't bother me at all, since I know that they are not here with him, they are not the ones that does his laundry and does not hold him at night.
In short, trust your man. And as this ';secret'; girl, have you ever asked him if he has a girlfriend?
Move on! You are not stuck nor really stuck. You've gotten involved with someone who has ';another side';, a ';private life';. This other side will remain hidden even should you bring everything into the open and he promises to be a different man from this day forward.
1. The hidden life is almost always dark
2. The hidden life requires that he live a lie
3. The hidden life means you have a false relationship
4. Eventually what is hidden will show it's tail and you will be hurt
5. You cannot have a normal relationship, everything will be twisted.
I encourage you to be decisive and choose a better relationship. You've been naive. You can be a fool once, but hopefully, not twice.
Ask him about his opinion about chatting. Ask him, does he chatting with other girls. If he tells a lie, then he doesn't deserve you.
If it was me I would as him up font what he is playing at and then see what he has to say for him self.
If I was the secret girl first thing I would ask is if he has a girlfriend and what he is looking for on the site.
what i would ask him is '; hey so you got any girlfriends??'; or.....have you already asked dat...
it's kind of tricky..coz you never know when you will get caught?? or why not do this just tell him that it's you, and say that your very upset about it and that you dont like it!! tell him straight away!! just ask him how he would feel if you were secretly chatting with other guys??
I kinda agree with Sweetgurl. Ask him if he has a girlfriend, and see what he says. Take it from there.
I am in a relationship of 4 and a half years and really love the person im with, we very rarley argue, we like the same things, we go out and have fun together, ect ect ect, obviously we have been through alot together as that is along time..girls imaine thats you!!
i have been very understanding of bloke things, i dont mind if he has porno's, he (on occasions like birthdays) mite go to a strip club which im not too bothered about, but ive recently found he has been chatting to girls on the internet, i know this as i signed up as someone else and have been talking to him for a about a week!, how many of you would draw the line there, i dont know whats the best thing to do?, i love him and want to be with him, but i cant help but think if hes doing that what else is he doing, also i dont know what hes saying to other girls, what would you do, would there be any particular questions you would ask him as this ';secret girl';....im realy stuck :-(A girls advice please.....?
As this ';secret girl';, ask him if he has someone special. I wouldn't be bothered if he's got this other side of him. But I'd draw the line when he starts meeting other girls from the internet you know. Go talk to him. If he's serious about you and your relationship, he'll lay off the ';other stuff';. It may be healthy for him but it sure is not relationship wise. Just talk to him about it. Goodluck.A girls advice please.....?
Approach him, and talk to him about the situation.
continue to chat with him and eventually try to meet with him... if he does meet with you, as his email buddy, then you know exactly where you stand and should break up with him.. sorry, but that's the facts.
before you draw the line ask him flirtatious questions as this secret girl and see how he acts...if he seems to be getting to friendly you need to talk to him...he may just be doing it to see pics of other girls and you're already giving him permission to do so...good luck
See how personal he is willing to get with you on the net. Then run as fast as you can and dont look back. He's a user and a loser.
Maybe if conversations save you could check up on them? you dont wanna be to sneaky.. it could lead to arguments about not trusting eachother... if its bothering you that he is talking to girls on the net.. then you shoudnt tlk to guys... i dont know... maybe try the convo saving thing.. if it dont work.. talk to him
I think one question you should ask is ';Do you have a girlfriend?'; And you know exactly what to do if he says ';No'; right? But on the other hand.. checking up on him like that will make him feel that you don't trust him. The only thing you can do I guess is to confront him straight out. If he argues, defends himself, and gets mad at you, then he's not worth it because if he loves you and knows that you love him, then it is only natural for you to want to know the truth.
What the??????? Man you lost me at the ect ect ect.........I thought it was etc etc etc......me no speaka your run on, no makea sentence's................
boys are boys, no matter how good he is, once in his life he will turn left. but in doing so don't really mean he don't love you anymore. if there is someone who knows him, its you. just cross your fingers and hope for the best. just be honest about the situation and accept his opinions.
talk to him as secret girl and see how far he is willing to go. you never know you may be supprised?? he might just be talking to these girls and nothing else. if he is willing to go further confront him
OK, my boyfriend does this all the time, the same stuff you described. The pornos, the strip clubs, the chatting with other girls,. I have been with him for over 10 years. When I first found out that he was chatting with other women, it didn't bother me at all, since I know that they are not here with him, they are not the ones that does his laundry and does not hold him at night.
In short, trust your man. And as this ';secret'; girl, have you ever asked him if he has a girlfriend?
Move on! You are not stuck nor really stuck. You've gotten involved with someone who has ';another side';, a ';private life';. This other side will remain hidden even should you bring everything into the open and he promises to be a different man from this day forward.
1. The hidden life is almost always dark
2. The hidden life requires that he live a lie
3. The hidden life means you have a false relationship
4. Eventually what is hidden will show it's tail and you will be hurt
5. You cannot have a normal relationship, everything will be twisted.
I encourage you to be decisive and choose a better relationship. You've been naive. You can be a fool once, but hopefully, not twice.
Ask him about his opinion about chatting. Ask him, does he chatting with other girls. If he tells a lie, then he doesn't deserve you.
If it was me I would as him up font what he is playing at and then see what he has to say for him self.
If I was the secret girl first thing I would ask is if he has a girlfriend and what he is looking for on the site.
what i would ask him is '; hey so you got any girlfriends??'; or.....have you already asked dat...
it's kind of tricky..coz you never know when you will get caught?? or why not do this just tell him that it's you, and say that your very upset about it and that you dont like it!! tell him straight away!! just ask him how he would feel if you were secretly chatting with other guys??
I kinda agree with Sweetgurl. Ask him if he has a girlfriend, and see what he says. Take it from there.
Help please girls and guys!!?
howdy!..i am going out with some friends tonight and need advise on how to start talking to girls and dance with them etc??..im a really shy guy when it comes to chatting up girls and have not had much experience so please advise me on what i can do to get the ball rolling??thanks yallHelp please girls and guys!!?
add me to yahoo and I will help you 1 on 1 butrfly_prncess@yahoo.com
Help please girls and guys!!?
if you have drinks or something just say cheers and start talking with them.
Get Wasted!
Be nice and compliment them.
Just chill and relax, that is the best way to start a conversation, dont be too pushy though.
Make her laugh. Act silly.
Girls love funny guys
If you dont know how to dance. Just try and make it in a jokingly way.
It'll make her laugh
try to be confident!!! Chat to them normally, dont get nervouse.
just be urself dont be someone ur not, dont look as thoguh ur looking for sumthin, jus be calm and show that all you want to do is have fun:)
good luck youll have fun!!
well all you have to do is join a conversation. if something is said that interests you, make sure you say that! :) its not hard. once you get the hang of it you will be fine!
Have quite a bit to drink, your shyness will disappear and before you know it, you are speaking to the girls.
Small talk first and get to know her, then b4 you know it you'll have confidence, you could drink a bit but not TOO much, that's when people get stupid and you'll probably scare her away.
have a few drinks to loosen your tongue - but dont get drunk and sloppy! Just ask them if they're having a good night - do they have work/college in the morning - that kind of thing!
xx
first of all look good be up to date with style and smell good ( girls love that )
be your self.
just make conversation like hi smile a Lil.ask her (her name)
complement on on how she look.
offer her to bye her a drink or something. when u in the party.
if u going to the clubs i suggest u do all the talking in the car cause when u in the party u can not here anything with the music
ask her to dance. hope she is not shy cause that will be really hard 4 me to explain in word to u
ask her if she like this song make sure it a popular song so u know the answer is yes OK take her hand a go dance with keep it not too sexy at first when u dancing cause u do not know her to well as yet then the rest should come natural
make her laugh ok and make her smile from time to time get her to like u and think u cool and she will just come out and be her self around u hope that help ok
just be your self
if you want more help add this
akilalleyne_21@hotmail.com
don't ask from the girls they are mean try going on all the guys opinions
Don't worry about being shy. I can't stand blokes that are in my face and loud!
Be friendly, and if you can make a girl smile then that's a bonus!
Best place to start is probably the bar, ask how she is and if she's having a good night. It should all just flow from there. If you are genuinely interested in the girl it will show.
Have fun!
First of all i think you need to dress to impress and smell good. If you know you look good then you will have more confidence straight away. You could also have a drink for dutch courage but don't have to much because the next step is dutch d**khead and that's not impressive. If you can't dance dint try and pull on the dance floor go to a girl at the bar and just start general chit chat with her don't try and hit on her and then the more women you speek to the easier it will become to start conversation with girls that you like. Hope this helps.
add me to yahoo and I will help you 1 on 1 butrfly_prncess@yahoo.com
Help please girls and guys!!?
if you have drinks or something just say cheers and start talking with them.
Get Wasted!
Be nice and compliment them.
Just chill and relax, that is the best way to start a conversation, dont be too pushy though.
Make her laugh. Act silly.
Girls love funny guys
If you dont know how to dance. Just try and make it in a jokingly way.
It'll make her laugh
try to be confident!!! Chat to them normally, dont get nervouse.
just be urself dont be someone ur not, dont look as thoguh ur looking for sumthin, jus be calm and show that all you want to do is have fun:)
good luck youll have fun!!
well all you have to do is join a conversation. if something is said that interests you, make sure you say that! :) its not hard. once you get the hang of it you will be fine!
Have quite a bit to drink, your shyness will disappear and before you know it, you are speaking to the girls.
Small talk first and get to know her, then b4 you know it you'll have confidence, you could drink a bit but not TOO much, that's when people get stupid and you'll probably scare her away.
have a few drinks to loosen your tongue - but dont get drunk and sloppy! Just ask them if they're having a good night - do they have work/college in the morning - that kind of thing!
xx
first of all look good be up to date with style and smell good ( girls love that )
be your self.
just make conversation like hi smile a Lil.ask her (her name)
complement on on how she look.
offer her to bye her a drink or something. when u in the party.
if u going to the clubs i suggest u do all the talking in the car cause when u in the party u can not here anything with the music
ask her to dance. hope she is not shy cause that will be really hard 4 me to explain in word to u
ask her if she like this song make sure it a popular song so u know the answer is yes OK take her hand a go dance with keep it not too sexy at first when u dancing cause u do not know her to well as yet then the rest should come natural
make her laugh ok and make her smile from time to time get her to like u and think u cool and she will just come out and be her self around u hope that help ok
just be your self
if you want more help add this
akilalleyne_21@hotmail.com
don't ask from the girls they are mean try going on all the guys opinions
Don't worry about being shy. I can't stand blokes that are in my face and loud!
Be friendly, and if you can make a girl smile then that's a bonus!
Best place to start is probably the bar, ask how she is and if she's having a good night. It should all just flow from there. If you are genuinely interested in the girl it will show.
Have fun!
First of all i think you need to dress to impress and smell good. If you know you look good then you will have more confidence straight away. You could also have a drink for dutch courage but don't have to much because the next step is dutch d**khead and that's not impressive. If you can't dance dint try and pull on the dance floor go to a girl at the bar and just start general chit chat with her don't try and hit on her and then the more women you speek to the easier it will become to start conversation with girls that you like. Hope this helps.
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