I think the reason is because of the lack of communication I have with them. I'm 19 years old, in College, never had a girlfriend, or dated one. I never even hung out with one. I'm a very nice person, and my friends always tell me how I'm one of a kind and an amazing person. I noticed that when I talk to girls in person, I may have a hard time keeping their interest, but when I talk to them on Facebook or MSN, I am able to make them laugh a lot....and I mean A LOT! I know that they don't laugh like this with everyone because I've asked them ';do you usually laugh this much, or is it just with me?'; Most of them say it's just with me (I'm gifted maybe? And yet no girlfriend lol). I find that when I chat with girls online, I have a bit more time to think of what I should say, but in person, sometimes I find it hard to keep going with the conversation because I go blank. Is there something I can do to help me keep up with these face to face conversations, or is it just practice?Why do I have trouble talking to girls in person?
yes , it's need more practice and practice ,
now , now I'am 25 year old , I can't imagine to talk with girl for one day ever , but
now I can talk to any girl easely , before I was think that when you talk with girl , talk in love , now I think it's no , first when you talk with girl , firstly for example if you walking in streat , and you see a girl , and you want to talk with her , ask her about the road about the streat and tell her after what your name ? , or where you from ? like that , and after tell her , try to talk with her more and more free as you talk with your boyfriend , talk with her about her country , her hoppy , and also you must guess innocent girl from her eyes , her face , don't be shy , and little by little by practice you will know how to talk with girl .Why do I have trouble talking to girls in person?
Thats exactly how I am but with boys, I think it requires more practice I kind of am the type to keep to my self so I think maybe talking to random objects pretending like there a girl will help.
Monday, December 12, 2011
GUYS please help; husband chatting with girls?!?
I found some questionable messages in my husband's messenger archive. Before you jump at me saying I shouldn't be snooping in his stuff; I was actually looking up messages that I'D sent to him (the messenger on my computer isn't set to save messages); and when I logged into the archive I saw that there were several females he made contact with, I suppose through a chat room. Just happens that I had clicked on the first one and I read it. He asked her her name, age, where she lived and if she was married or single, and when she said single he asked if she had a boyfriend. He also told her that he was single and she asked if he had a girlfriend and that's where the conversation ended. I clicked on another conversation and saw that he asked the girl if he could see a pic of her (which apparently he did). All the rest of the conversations were mostly just hi how are you and that's it. It all took place on three separate days and it has never happened before.
My question is; why do you think he would do that? Would you say things like that if you had no sneaky intentions?
What should I do?GUYS please help; husband chatting with girls?!?
My advice might seem off, but you might just keep this quiet. It sorta sounds like he got curious one day, started clicking and playing with alternate identities just to see what might happen. Since it's not a pattern of behavior, it's not cause for concern yet. Check his message archive every so often if you want just to make sure he is on the up and up. If he begins giving away personal details about where you live, his cell number or anything, alarm bells should go off.GUYS please help; husband chatting with girls?!?
tell him you are a lesbian and can't stand him anymore
wow.. thats messed up
Just ask him in a serious but not psychotic way.
hit him very hard if i was you
He's straying, you need to talk to him ASAP. Explain that you weren't snooping, even if you were, that does not excuse him trying to contact females. There is no need for that! You deserve better. It sounds like he is not very happy and is looking for other companionship:( I am so sorry, I hope everything works out.
chat with him from another location
Confront him with the evidence. He is either looking to cheat or already cheating.
you SERIOUSLY need to talk to him about this or else he's going to keep doing it! Ask him why and tell him that it's wrong and that it bothers you! That's just wrong what he's doing...I hope your marriage doesn't end! Good luck..
Wow, that sux, you should confront him about that! Don't interrogate, but tell him that he should not be keeping secrets from you.
Turn the internet off. He obviously can't be trust online, what is he doing outside of the house? He has no right to be talking to woman and telling them he's single. Smack him around a little bit. Ask him why he's talking to other woman and if he gets all defensive you know he's guilty of a lot more than that.
sign up for the chat room with an alias, see if he'll meet you for sex and BOOM! Busted.
Boys will always be boys but married (even relationships) should not be talking to other girls online.
I would confront him about it and tell him that you are upset at what you saw. See how he reacts.
It is wrong so if he doesn't stop you might need to take it to a more serious level.
Chatting up on msgr is not any different then chatting up with girls in person. looks like his intentions are not to make friends especially if he is asking for their pictures.
If he is telling girls on the web that he is single than he is up to no good. I would think that that would be obvious. Also sending pics???? God what more do you want??? Him to come right out and tell you he is cheating??
He would do that probably because you two have a boring marriage.
He emotionally hurts you, you divorce him, or just ask him what was going on. If you know what he said to her, quiz him, and if he tells the truth, fine. And if he lies to you, tell him that you really know what's really going on.
If he would do such a thing without you knowing, that's really bad.
contact a bunch of really hot guys and accidentally let him see them
I think he's just being curious I don't think he'd do any thing. Some times me just want to test themselves and see if they still got mojo... he he. I would kick his a** and tell him not to do it again. Have him on a leach from now on and tell him his on probation for messing around.
I would not stay married to an unfaithful woman.
If he hasn't cheated on you...his on his road to it! Yes! his sneaky and yes! intentions are NO good! he must feel somethings missing or wrong but anyhow print out what you've seen so far and give it too him.
I think he is looking to cheat and if he denied that he even chatted then he really is up to something. Guys can surprise you and they are all sleazes.
If I were you, I'd tell him what I have found out. I would not take a lying husband! If you will let him get away with it, he'll keep on doing it again and again.
Uh oh. Danger. Chat rooms are NOTHING but trouble. Maybe he was just curious and didn't take it any further than there.... but he went as far as asking about boyfriends, and pictures and stuff.... I'd be very wary. Even more so that he didn't admit it to you.... he's hiding it.
Be careful. Don't just jump to conclusions and assume he's cheating... he might have toyed with the idea... but probably hasn't gone there. yet.
This guy is cheating on you. Tell him that you know he has made contact with girls. If he wanted to know all that imfomation he wasnt just being polite. Then leave the moron.
I'm concern that he stated that he is single. Before jumping to conclusions, I recommend not telling him that you know, instead wait and continue to read his messages to see where his head is at. You could even chat with him yourself under another name.
You mentioned that he stated he never chatted online. Are you positive that its him?
As for cheating, we are all human, and anything is possible. This could have just been a temporary (fanacy) thing and won't happen again.
All of these people on here telling you to wait and see have not been in a relationship that has survived cheating, you need to nip this in the bud, you should have come out and said something as soon as you found it, if you're concerned that he's not communicating with you, it usually helps if you communicate with him too. Don't be an enabler, confront him as soon as possible or you may lose him.
My question is; why do you think he would do that? Would you say things like that if you had no sneaky intentions?
What should I do?GUYS please help; husband chatting with girls?!?
My advice might seem off, but you might just keep this quiet. It sorta sounds like he got curious one day, started clicking and playing with alternate identities just to see what might happen. Since it's not a pattern of behavior, it's not cause for concern yet. Check his message archive every so often if you want just to make sure he is on the up and up. If he begins giving away personal details about where you live, his cell number or anything, alarm bells should go off.GUYS please help; husband chatting with girls?!?
tell him you are a lesbian and can't stand him anymore
wow.. thats messed up
Just ask him in a serious but not psychotic way.
hit him very hard if i was you
He's straying, you need to talk to him ASAP. Explain that you weren't snooping, even if you were, that does not excuse him trying to contact females. There is no need for that! You deserve better. It sounds like he is not very happy and is looking for other companionship:( I am so sorry, I hope everything works out.
chat with him from another location
Confront him with the evidence. He is either looking to cheat or already cheating.
you SERIOUSLY need to talk to him about this or else he's going to keep doing it! Ask him why and tell him that it's wrong and that it bothers you! That's just wrong what he's doing...I hope your marriage doesn't end! Good luck..
Wow, that sux, you should confront him about that! Don't interrogate, but tell him that he should not be keeping secrets from you.
Turn the internet off. He obviously can't be trust online, what is he doing outside of the house? He has no right to be talking to woman and telling them he's single. Smack him around a little bit. Ask him why he's talking to other woman and if he gets all defensive you know he's guilty of a lot more than that.
sign up for the chat room with an alias, see if he'll meet you for sex and BOOM! Busted.
Boys will always be boys but married (even relationships) should not be talking to other girls online.
I would confront him about it and tell him that you are upset at what you saw. See how he reacts.
It is wrong so if he doesn't stop you might need to take it to a more serious level.
Chatting up on msgr is not any different then chatting up with girls in person. looks like his intentions are not to make friends especially if he is asking for their pictures.
If he is telling girls on the web that he is single than he is up to no good. I would think that that would be obvious. Also sending pics???? God what more do you want??? Him to come right out and tell you he is cheating??
He would do that probably because you two have a boring marriage.
He emotionally hurts you, you divorce him, or just ask him what was going on. If you know what he said to her, quiz him, and if he tells the truth, fine. And if he lies to you, tell him that you really know what's really going on.
If he would do such a thing without you knowing, that's really bad.
contact a bunch of really hot guys and accidentally let him see them
I think he's just being curious I don't think he'd do any thing. Some times me just want to test themselves and see if they still got mojo... he he. I would kick his a** and tell him not to do it again. Have him on a leach from now on and tell him his on probation for messing around.
I would not stay married to an unfaithful woman.
If he hasn't cheated on you...his on his road to it! Yes! his sneaky and yes! intentions are NO good! he must feel somethings missing or wrong but anyhow print out what you've seen so far and give it too him.
I think he is looking to cheat and if he denied that he even chatted then he really is up to something. Guys can surprise you and they are all sleazes.
If I were you, I'd tell him what I have found out. I would not take a lying husband! If you will let him get away with it, he'll keep on doing it again and again.
Uh oh. Danger. Chat rooms are NOTHING but trouble. Maybe he was just curious and didn't take it any further than there.... but he went as far as asking about boyfriends, and pictures and stuff.... I'd be very wary. Even more so that he didn't admit it to you.... he's hiding it.
Be careful. Don't just jump to conclusions and assume he's cheating... he might have toyed with the idea... but probably hasn't gone there. yet.
This guy is cheating on you. Tell him that you know he has made contact with girls. If he wanted to know all that imfomation he wasnt just being polite. Then leave the moron.
I'm concern that he stated that he is single. Before jumping to conclusions, I recommend not telling him that you know, instead wait and continue to read his messages to see where his head is at. You could even chat with him yourself under another name.
You mentioned that he stated he never chatted online. Are you positive that its him?
As for cheating, we are all human, and anything is possible. This could have just been a temporary (fanacy) thing and won't happen again.
All of these people on here telling you to wait and see have not been in a relationship that has survived cheating, you need to nip this in the bud, you should have come out and said something as soon as you found it, if you're concerned that he's not communicating with you, it usually helps if you communicate with him too. Don't be an enabler, confront him as soon as possible or you may lose him.
Help please!! How do i chat up a girl, so she will go out with me?
Im a 27 year old man and i have never had a proper girlfriend the only type of relationships ive had are horrible flings with girls i didnt really like but threw themselves at me! I think ive learned from them not to sleep with someone you dont want a relationship with. Ive recently lost some weight and have been going out with my mates on 'the pull'. They always seem to get these gorgeous girls and i dont know how? Im attracted to girls in their early 20's and try to talk to them but it always feels awkward like im auditioning to b their mate. Im a funny guy but i dont think it comes across coz i have an out there personality and unless you know me it seems nuts!! When im chatting 2a girl, sometimes the talking stops and it feels awkward and i dont know what to say?? When should i try and kiss her or ask her out? It might b2soon or she mite laugh and say no way!! My friends say im a good looking guy but i am losing some hair? Advice please, I want a girlfriend? Why is it so difficult?Help please!! How do i chat up a girl, so she will go out with me?
Never kiss a girl on the first date, even if you just met her. Get to know her and if she likes you ask her out. Try not to sleep with them for a while especially if you like her you want the relationship to last. What guy out there wants a women who puts out so soon, can you really trust a women who gives it up so easily. Just take your time and the right women will come along. It happens when you least expect it.Help please!! How do i chat up a girl, so she will go out with me?
just be your self theyll like you for be you
go marry ....u r too old to date
just talk to her. be yourself, and, take a chance. the more girls you ask out, and the more rejectioons you get the easier it will be. and if youve been flirting alot and shes flirting back, kiss her then. like the other advice, you go the first 90% let her go the last 10%.
Never kiss a girl on the first date, even if you just met her. Get to know her and if she likes you ask her out. Try not to sleep with them for a while especially if you like her you want the relationship to last. What guy out there wants a women who puts out so soon, can you really trust a women who gives it up so easily. Just take your time and the right women will come along. It happens when you least expect it.Help please!! How do i chat up a girl, so she will go out with me?
just be your self theyll like you for be you
go marry ....u r too old to date
just talk to her. be yourself, and, take a chance. the more girls you ask out, and the more rejectioons you get the easier it will be. and if youve been flirting alot and shes flirting back, kiss her then. like the other advice, you go the first 90% let her go the last 10%.
Help please!! How do i chat up a girl?
Im a 27 year old man and i have never had a proper girlfriend the only type of relationships ive had are horrible flings with girls i didnt really like but threw themselves at me! I think ive learned from them not to sleep with someone you dont want a relationship with. Ive recently lost some weight and have been going out with my mates on 'the pull'. They always seem to get these gorgeous girls and i dont know how? Im attracted to girls in their early 20's and try to talk to them but it always feels awkward like im auditioning to b their mate. Im a funny guy but i dont think it comes across coz i have an out there personality and unless you know me it seems nuts!! When im chatting 2a girl, sometimes the talking stops and it feels awkward and i dont know what to say?? When should i try and kiss her or ask her out? It might b2soon or she mite laugh and say no way!! My friends say im a good looking guy but i am losing some hair? Advice please, I want a girlfriend to?Help please!! How do i chat up a girl?
dude just be ur self and talk to the ladys don't be scared
dude just be ur self and talk to the ladys don't be scared
Help please!! How do i chat up a girl, so she will go out with me?
Im a 27 year old man and i have never had a proper girlfriend the only type of relationships ive had are horrible flings with girls i didnt really like but threw themselves at me! I think ive learned from them not to sleep with someone you dont want a relationship with. Ive recently lost some weight and have been going out with my mates on 'the pull'. They always seem to get these gorgeous girls and i dont know how? Im attracted to girls in their early 20's and try to talk to them but it always feels awkward like im auditioning to b their mate. Im a funny guy but i dont think it comes across coz i have an out there personality and unless you know me it seems nuts!! When im chatting 2a girl, sometimes the talking stops and it feels awkward and i dont know what to say?? When should i try and kiss her or ask her out? It might b2soon or she mite laugh and say no way!! My friends say im a good looking guy but i am losing some hair? Advice please, I want a girlfriend? Why is it so difficult?Help please!! How do i chat up a girl, so she will go out with me?
talk to them. even if its kind of forced have a conversation...put humour into it and show them your personality. if they seem interested ask to see them again...or if it doesnt feel right then walk away. good luckHelp please!! How do i chat up a girl, so she will go out with me?
You are trying too hard to impress them that you are forgetting one thing, that if you really want a girlfriend, then be yourself, and a girl who will like or love you as you are is definitely a girlfriend material or to quote you, a ';proper girlfriend';. Just be yourself.How do i make a quilt hair dryer
talk to them. even if its kind of forced have a conversation...put humour into it and show them your personality. if they seem interested ask to see them again...or if it doesnt feel right then walk away. good luckHelp please!! How do i chat up a girl, so she will go out with me?
You are trying too hard to impress them that you are forgetting one thing, that if you really want a girlfriend, then be yourself, and a girl who will like or love you as you are is definitely a girlfriend material or to quote you, a ';proper girlfriend';. Just be yourself.
Help please!! How do i chat up a girl, so she will go out with me?
Im a 27 year old man and i have never had a proper girlfriend the only type of relationships ive had are horrible flings with girls i didnt really like but threw themselves at me! I think ive learned from them not to sleep with someone you dont want a relationship with. Ive recently lost some weight and have been going out with my mates on 'the pull'. They always seem to get these gorgeous girls and i dont know how? Im attracted to girls in their early 20's and try to talk to them but it always feels awkward like im auditioning to b their mate. Im a funny guy but i dont think it comes across coz i have an out there personality and unless you know me it seems nuts!! When im chatting 2a girl, sometimes the talking stops and it feels awkward and i dont know what to say?? When should i try and kiss her or ask her out? It might b2soon or she mite laugh and say no way!! My friends say im a good looking guy but i am losing some hair? Advice please, I want a girlfriend? Why is it so difficult?Help please!! How do i chat up a girl, so she will go out with me?
**THIS IS GOOD STUFF:**
First of all, calm down. One of the biggest turn-offs for a girl is a guy who seems nervous. Girls like a guy who isn't so confident that he is arrogant, but is a real man. BUT, the BIGGEST turn-off is a guy who seems desperate. I hate it when guys throw themselves at me and ask me all of these awkward questions, just like you don't like it when girls do that to you. It takes time to find someone who you really care about, but it is a lot more rewarding. You seem like a nice person, just don't be so desperate, play it cool, and things will come naturally.
If you want to know about what you should talk about, just say funny stuff. Don't bombard the poor girl with all of these questions about herself so fast. Wait until she starts telling stuff to you. She will feel pretty awkward at first unless you crack jokes and make her laugh. As far as the whole kissing thing, you should wait at least until after the first couple of dates before you full-out kiss her, OR until she makes the first move. But, really you should be the one to make the first move. So good luck, I hope that I have helped, and just remember that it isn't that difficult, just don't be so desperate.Help please!! How do i chat up a girl, so she will go out with me?
be your self and any girl who dont like you for that isn't the girl for you
**THIS IS GOOD STUFF:**
First of all, calm down. One of the biggest turn-offs for a girl is a guy who seems nervous. Girls like a guy who isn't so confident that he is arrogant, but is a real man. BUT, the BIGGEST turn-off is a guy who seems desperate. I hate it when guys throw themselves at me and ask me all of these awkward questions, just like you don't like it when girls do that to you. It takes time to find someone who you really care about, but it is a lot more rewarding. You seem like a nice person, just don't be so desperate, play it cool, and things will come naturally.
If you want to know about what you should talk about, just say funny stuff. Don't bombard the poor girl with all of these questions about herself so fast. Wait until she starts telling stuff to you. She will feel pretty awkward at first unless you crack jokes and make her laugh. As far as the whole kissing thing, you should wait at least until after the first couple of dates before you full-out kiss her, OR until she makes the first move. But, really you should be the one to make the first move. So good luck, I hope that I have helped, and just remember that it isn't that difficult, just don't be so desperate.Help please!! How do i chat up a girl, so she will go out with me?
be your self and any girl who dont like you for that isn't the girl for you
Help please!! How do i chat up a girl, so she will go out with me?
Im a 27 year old man and i have never had a proper girlfriend the only type of relationships ive had are horrible flings with girls i didnt really like but threw themselves at me! I think ive learned from them not to sleep with someone you dont want a relationship with. Ive recently lost some weight and have been going out with my mates on 'the pull'. They always seem to get these gorgeous girls and i dont know how? Im attracted to girls in their early 20's and try to talk to them but it always feels awkward like im auditioning to b their mate. Im a funny guy but i dont think it comes across coz i have an out there personality and unless you know me it seems nuts!! When im chatting 2a girl, sometimes the talking stops and it feels awkward and i dont know what to say?? When should i try and kiss her or ask her out? It might b2soon or she mite laugh and say no way!! My friends say im a good looking guy but i am losing some hair? Advice please, I want a girlfriend to?Help please!! How do i chat up a girl, so she will go out with me?
Ok well, First off, it seems like you could do with holding back a little of your personality. Let the girl get to know the out their personality a little at a time after she has gotten more comfortable with you. Girls will judge you on how serious you are. They don't want to get involved with a clown. You need to shoe both a serious side and a fun side but not too extreme either way at first. Maybe you could sort of emulate a person you know. Like Nickolas Cage the actor. He's pretty cool. Anyway, gorgeous girls are great but have just as many personality problems as any girl. Start out just wanting to get to know the girl. Put your attention on getting to know her and forget about the fact that she's hot. This hot young thing could potentially make you the saddest most miserable guy in the world if you don't pay attention to how she behaves. I have that experience with a bikini model I dated. She was awful and all I saw was how cute she was. Looks don't make a girl nice to be with.
Get comfortable with being quiet some of the time. You don't have to fill every minute with chatter. Show her you are comfortable just sitting quiet and contemplating the universe. Give her time to tell her tails. Don't over power the girl. My experience is that girls are addicted to being paid attention to by a nice guy. Be that guy.
Ok well, First off, it seems like you could do with holding back a little of your personality. Let the girl get to know the out their personality a little at a time after she has gotten more comfortable with you. Girls will judge you on how serious you are. They don't want to get involved with a clown. You need to shoe both a serious side and a fun side but not too extreme either way at first. Maybe you could sort of emulate a person you know. Like Nickolas Cage the actor. He's pretty cool. Anyway, gorgeous girls are great but have just as many personality problems as any girl. Start out just wanting to get to know the girl. Put your attention on getting to know her and forget about the fact that she's hot. This hot young thing could potentially make you the saddest most miserable guy in the world if you don't pay attention to how she behaves. I have that experience with a bikini model I dated. She was awful and all I saw was how cute she was. Looks don't make a girl nice to be with.
Get comfortable with being quiet some of the time. You don't have to fill every minute with chatter. Show her you are comfortable just sitting quiet and contemplating the universe. Give her time to tell her tails. Don't over power the girl. My experience is that girls are addicted to being paid attention to by a nice guy. Be that guy.
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