Sunday, November 21, 2010

How can I be more TALKATIVE around girls?

I mean, when I chat with them ONLINE or by TEXTING, I'm really good at talking to them %26amp; making them laugh. HOWEVER, when I talk to girls face-to-face, I can't come up with ANYTHING to talk about with them! It's also true for guys - I'm not really talkative with my guy friends either...


So, the question is: how can I transfer the talkativeness I have when I chat with girls ONLINE to when I meet them face-to-face?





PS: Asked the same question yesterday, just wanting more input from more people :)How can I be more TALKATIVE around girls?
Just make them laugh and ask them about themselves. Girls LOVE talking about themselves. When a girl says something, ask a follow-up question and make a lot of ';me too'; statements so that she knows you two have something in common.





Also, play hard to get (I learned this lesson). Don't always be around them or give them the attention they love. This will make them flock to you; believe me. Girls want what they can't have. Treat them like you would your friends or something. Give them attention, then blow them off and/or ignore them through texts or phone calls when they try to contact you. Say you're sick or tired if they ask you to hang out. And finally, don't be too agreeable and complimentary. They're used to getting this from guys. STAND OUT AND BE DIFFERENT. In the end, just be yourself and not afraid to express yourself. You were born YOU. If a girl isn't going to like YOU for YOU then she isn't the right girl for you anyway. The goal is to find a girl you love and spend the rest of your life with her. You need to find THAT GIRL. You will not be able to do that if you are not yourself. Good luck man, and don't be afraid of rejection. It happens to the best of us, but you never know until you try!





Best of luck!How can I be more TALKATIVE around girls?
just talk and make jokes. not that hard.
it just takes courage. as simple as that
I need to figure this out too. wait.... im a girl..............





LESBIAN XD
I told you, get drunk. Or imagine she's a guy or a close friend you're comfortable with talking to
drink a shot of liquor..jp! grab your balls,be brave,and go talk!
just talk about the what ever you chat with... or even talk about the chat =D
Stop texting. Just relax and don't worry about saying anything silly or goofy, just be yourself!
just bring up something you were talking about before lik while you were texting and be lik memmber that
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pretend ur online just dont put ur hands up and type.be ur self dont talk all about ur self but have a good time.
you just have to learn how to be confident in your self
that's odd, try getting her talking about something and then giving your two cents. that's what conversation is all about one person says something and the other plays off of it and the dialogue evolves
try figuring out what the girls in particular are interested in, learn about it and then offer your opinions and knowledge. It's actually quite impressive when a guy is informed on a topic that girls like.
Be sweet and be a gentleman you don't have to talk too much just pick up her books if she drops them and open doors for her. if she look cold ask if she wants your jacket. simple things like that.


As for talking just normal conversation like so what class are you going to next (if your in school) and What shes been up to. But act really interested the thing that bothers the crap out of me is when their like so how are you and then while your telling them they have this totally bored expression on their face.. gosh its just like saying look i really don't care so shut up. Hope this helps.. were not THAT complex! :)
When you are texting or online no one can see you and you can be whoever you want to be!!!


Stop judging yourself and start not giving a ****!!!


Stop worrying about what people will think of you!!


They are going to think what they think regardless....so just act like no one is listening and it doesn't matter...try it for a day or two and see what happens!
talk about your life and let her talk about her own life don't try to be all cool and have things in common. and try not to blush just pretend you texting her or something
just dont be worried about what there gonna think or anything..just TALK!
Open yur mouth...how bout that? I use to be that way too bro and you just have to learn to take a deep breath and talk. Your obviously a talkative outgoing person online. Now it's time to take that to the real world. Next time yur gona talk to a girl close yur eyes, take a deep breath, and say the funniest thing that comes to mind. Yur either gona hit a homer or strike out, but you won't know till you try. If you strike out...who cares move on and try again!
Start of asking them did you see that movie (example twilight new moon) and that will start you off and don't try so hard!
Just ask them questions about themselves and let that guide the subject matter of the conversation. You don't have to come up with interesting topics to entertain her, just let her know that you're interested in her and her background. By asking questions you'll not only give yourself an idea of what she likes to talk about, you'll also be given a free pass on having to come up with conversational stimulants all by yourself.
You need to work on your self-confidence. It seems that you're good when you're unseen but when it's face-to-face, your tendency is to fold up. There's really nothing to be shy about. These are your friends and you can talk to them about anything. No one is judging you so go ahead and just say what's in your mind. Talk about movies, games, school stuff. So many topics out here. Don't think that you have to impress them. Just be yourself. Have fun!
Simple answer; get out more! The more you get out, the more people you'll meet and the more social situations you'll find yourself in. Being around girls, like most things in life is a learned process and the best way to improve yourself is to immerse yourself. Get off the computer and hit the town because you can't hide behind a screen forever; if you do, you'll simply sit there for the next 10 years asking yourself the same question.


As for topics of conversation, any topic of conversation is a topic of conversation - if it can be talked about, talk about it - rather you talk about anything than you talk about nothing. Another very simple thing you may miss is the fact that 50% (or at least it should be 50%) of communcation comes from listening. If you can't think of anything to say, that doesn't mean nobody else has nothing to say - it'll help develop your relationships so they aren't uni-dimensional, provides easy set ups for witty remarks and puns and gives your own head time to tick over and create a new topic for when the current one's finished with.


Thirdly, and lastly, it's a simple rule that if you have confidence people will like you, regardless of how much crap you talk. Again, all of this stems from getting out and having real life social interactions rather than LOL'ing with your e-buddies (no condescention meant here!). Brush up on your dialect and your body language skills and if you don't have confidence, feign it and it'll start coming naturally to you soon enough.


Good luck!
When I talk, texting or face to face, I just kind of speak my mind. The more you try to stay away from talking to people, the more that will pop into your head when you are talking. Try to hold back on texting conversations, and more on face to face. Texting also gives you time to think about what you say. When you're talking, take longer pauses in between sentences. I'm good at talking to people, but a lot of people are always trying to talk to me. Don't be so open to talk at every turn, because when you do talk, you will seem way more talkative.
Just bring up things that you know you have in common, or things the girls like, also pay them compliments. (:
umm yess it is hard for everyone who said it isn't, you have to become more confident! you have to believe in yourself and just go for it,its a new year just get out there and live life! i know its hard but there really isn't a trick to becoming more talkative you just have to ....do it :)
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